The reason we are taking things further are.... the doctors attitute was so bad, like i said, no remorse.. he was laughing and joking through the meeting... slapped my arm a couple of times when i asked questions... to dismiss me.
I can understand your anger, but court action is very unlikely to satisfy you or it. There is a better than even chance that it will leave things worse. That is not what the court tries to do, and it is bad enough at what it tries to do.
The doctor may have very poor people skills. In some areas that is almost a requirement of the job. It can need extraordinary confidence to operate on a child. That over-confidence can come at the expense of the humility necessary to talk properly to a family after the event.
I cannot know how you feel, but I do know what it is to lose a child. You can have only very few memories of your child. In five, ten and twenty years time, what you will need will be those memories. They must not be lost under a great big mudpile of bitterness.