From what the OP is saying she is likely a victim of domestic abuse. In particular controlling and coercive behaviour.
In September 2012 the Government published guidance which may assist prosecutors to better understand the nature and features of controlling or coercive behaviour.
Domestic violence and abuse is defined as:
"Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members, regardless of gender or sexuality. This can encompass, but is not limited to, the following types of abuse: psychological, physical, sexual, financial and emotional."
http://www.cps.gov.uk/legal/a_to_c/cont ... behaviour/
Earl, I know of a resource which may be of benefit to you. I'll send it via pm.