Owen, please do not play games. We all realise that you were not present when these things were or were not said. That is in the nature of these cases.
You have said
The letter also mentions promises made two years ago.
Does the letter detail the alleged promises? What does it say about them?
I apologise, I am trying to be as informative as possible while keeping everything as anonymous as possible. No, I am very unhappy about the solicitor letter, it mentions 'promises' and 'understandings' and leaves them vague. I am writing back to them to ask them to clarify, after submitting my draft to the solicitor. Under the terms of my late father's will it states that if his spouse predeceases him then the estate is to be shared equally between myself and my in-law's spouse; but my mother outlived my father, and so that clause was not invoked. This is probably the 'promise' being alluded to, the letter is vague. I became my mother's registered carer after my father died. Mum left the residue of her estate to me after all expenses and legacies were paid, I was the sole executor. Mum's will was different to dad's, neither will mentions 'promises' or 'understandings'. I've asked their solicitor if there is any documentation referring to these 'promises' to please let me have a copies. I have also asked him in what capacity or on what grounds is he requesting an estate account of me - surely he is aware of who in law is entitled to estate accounts? He's also requested 'HMRC forms' and I am not even sure that such a request is lawful or not: presumably IHT correspondence is a private matter between me and HMRC, would I even be entitled to pass on such information to a third party?