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Bedroom Quandary

Postby Big_Trev » Tue May 17, 2016 11:16 am

It would appear that due to circumstances my step son (12) will be returning to our care after several years living with his father. He is currently classed as child protection with SS who have told my wife if/when he returns he will need his own bedroom but this is where the problem lies

We have a 3 bed house of which my daughters (9 & 5) share, my son (2) has his own room and obviously mine and my wife's room so why can't he share with his brother?

I cannot afford to move to a larger property, our daughters room isn't large enough for a 3 bed, they even suggested my wife and I give my step son our bedroom and we have a put up bed in the lounge, how impractical is that

Can they really expect us to do this
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Re: Bedroom Quandary

Postby diy » Tue May 17, 2016 1:44 pm

Is there a back room or study or even a garage you could convert. Alternatively can you partition one of the existing bedrooms or convert the loft? I built a garden room for about £4K, which exceeds building control standards for houses and a person could easily use it as a small studio flat apart from the lack of utilities which is key to doing it without planning.
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Re: Bedroom Quandary

Postby atticus » Tue May 17, 2016 2:04 pm

Can the father contribute?
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Re: Bedroom Quandary

Postby 3.14 » Tue May 17, 2016 2:21 pm

Why can't the 2 year old sleep with the girls and the 12 year old can have his room?
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Re: Bedroom Quandary

Postby Big_Trev » Tue May 17, 2016 2:29 pm

I cannot modify the house as its a rented property and a to get somewhere with 4 bedrooms I'm looking at an extra £250+ a month as for the 2yr old sharing with the girls their room is quite small and they already have bunk beds
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Re: Bedroom Quandary

Postby 3.14 » Tue May 17, 2016 2:41 pm

But it can be done. This does seem like a 1st world problem but that's me.
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Re: Bedroom Quandary

Postby atticus » Tue May 17, 2016 4:14 pm

The problem appears to lie with the involvement of social services (Trev says the boy is "classed as child protection"). We do not know why, but clearly social services have a role to play and are, for whatever reason, looking out for the boy's welfare, and possibly that of the other children as well. Trev and his wife are going to have to work something out with them. I do not know if there is a risk that otherwise the boy will be taken into care.
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Re: Bedroom Quandary

Postby atticus » Tue May 17, 2016 4:19 pm

Whatever happened to the home bar/darts area?
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Re: Bedroom Quandary

Postby shootist » Tue May 17, 2016 5:49 pm

Three options here, I think.

1. Try to find grounds to challenge the SS opinion on the 'own bedroom' idea.

2. Let the boy go elsewhere.

3. Move bedrooms around.

I suggest No. 3.
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Re: Bedroom Quandary

Postby diy » Wed May 18, 2016 7:31 am

3 kids in 1 room, look for some sort of triple bunk bed arrangement or private bunk beds, with sides and curtains - you can make these yourself easily using stud partition wood and ply. You can easily theme it for the children to make it more fun. I built both my kids race car beds this way - 2 sheets of ply, some 2" x 1" for the slats and Studwork for the structure. I think I spent £40-60 including paint.
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