I was given shared custody of my two children in 2009. In 2010 there was a concern about my partner being a potential risk to my daughter and both my partner and I agreed to conditions in the form of an undertaking so that I could continue my shared contact. The summary of the reason for these conditions references my daughter only (ie the risk to her would be reduced if.....) and states that they are in place to manage in a constructive and positive way in the long term throughout the minority of my daughter. My son is mentioned in a couple of the conditions and it was explained to us that this is so that my daughter did not feel singled out. There has never been concern by the court that there is risk to my son.
My daughter will soon be 18. We assume that this means she will then be free of these conditions as she will no longer be a child. We also assumed, as it was explained to us during the hearing that this was the case, that the conditions will no longer apply to my son, who is 14. He is not considered at risk and should therefore not be subject to these conditions once my daughter is free of them. My ex husband disagrees.
Can anyone tell me who is right please? And if I am right is there a way to confirm this to my ex? Would the court confirm this if I were to write to them?
Thanks for your help in advance.